It's Better to Wait

I would like, if I may, to take you back to a time when just going off alone with a member of the opposite sex was scandalous, regardless of whether or not you did anything.  Now let's come back to the present where a 16 year old virgin is rare, let alone a 19 year old one.  I am a firm believer that sex should be something between two people who intend to spend the rest of their lives together.  This has no correlation to any religious beliefs, just my own opinion from my own experiences.  My mom was in the army when she met my father.  They dated and then she found out she was pregnant.  At around the same time, the army assigned my father up to North Carolina, and my mother to Texas.  He was obviously given a choice to either leave the army and take care of me and my mom, but he chose to leave and never even attempt to make contact with us.  I have lived my entire life with out knowing my father and it sucks.

Pregnancy can happen even if you use a condom or birth control.  The only way to ensure that you don't get pregnant is to not have sex in the first place.  It's not fair to the children of these unwanted pregnancies that even though they made no mistakes, they are sent to orphanages or have to grow up with out a father.  Personally, I always feel slightly ashamed when I admit that I don't know my father.  I get the sad look that says "oh you poor dear, you've missed so much." and I know I have.

Sex used to mean "I love you," now it means "I'm horny and you're there."  When I give it up, it will be because I love the man I'm with and if I do get pregnant, I know that my child will at least know his/her father.  And that's really important to me.